Recently during an NFL game, the announcers commented on how the new head coach was trying to do some team building during this strange time. Since there was no training camp nor preseason games, there had been very little time to help coaches and players join together in the plan for the team. The coach held video conferences with groups of players and asked them to discuss these four topics. It turned out to be greatly beneficial as many players found common stories and experiences. It brought them closer as players and “big brothers”.
If you’ve read any of my posts here, then you’ve already found the explanations for most of these topics. The great majority of posts are from actual experiences. Those who were involved can probably tell something was written about them. I tend to not include names in case they wish to keep to themselves. It doesn’t change the points made. I believe that everyone attending classes could discuss these topics (some at great lengths). It is part of why they train. It is why family has developed.
Now, I do have the guilty pleasure of watching The Voice. I’ve greatly enjoyed the music. Those that watch it with me (and I get to control the remote) have asked why I skip through the backstory and lead-up for the singers. My answer is that everyone’s backstory is the same. That sounds harsh but, to me, true. Everyone has lost important family members, had to deal with medical drama, has been bullied/harassed, has been or still is insecure. The history and heartbreak have helped you develop. You have found strength through that pain. Those are the past, though.
I think that looking at your heroes and your hope are the more important aspects. These are the things that inspire you and lead you forward. The Hero’s Journey is often applied to training and, should be, applied to life. The stages described fit everyone’s life! Build upon the knowledge and experience from your history and heartbreak through your heroes and your hope to accomplish all that you choose. The video below is a bit old but it illustrates a comment that I recently saw (connected to an overly produced video). The comment went “Often success is based upon how long you feel sorry yourself.”